Take That Chance You’ve Been Thinking of

I’m not one to give unsolicited advice to people. Not co workers. Not friends. Not family. I mostly keep to myself. I’m not a fan of people trying to force their beliefs on to others. No matter how well intentioned they may be. So this isn’t advice. I’m not telling you this will change your life or alter the way you do certain things. I’m sharing with you a mindset I’ve adopted.

I don’t think it’s particularly astonishing to say we’ve all been asked about the things we regret. And we all have things that come to mind that we don’t share, for various reasons. My new mindset aims to eliminate those things from my life.

I’ll never want to ask myself “What if…?” again. I’m serious. I’d rather face rejection or fail at something or experience defeat than simply avoid taking a chance. Because when we avoid risk or chance, then what are we really doing? We’re sticking to routine, what we know best. And guess what? That’s easy. That’s how we can have a good job and close friends and family and STILL be miserable. Because we’re too busy not taking any chances. I refuse.

If I have a question at work I should know the answer to but don’t, I’m asking for help. If I have the opportunity to travel, I’m taking it. If a girl appears in my life and I want to know if she wants what I want, I’m asking. If a job opportunity opens up at my company or elsewhere and I feel I’d be a great candidate, I’m applying.

These are just a few examples. I plan on carrying this into every aspect of my life. Why? Because taking a chance or risking failure is much less damaging than never doing so.

We’ll be faced with tough decisions. But they don’t always have to be agonizing.

Need Some Motivation to get Back to Writing?

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Well you won’t find any here. Let me ask you something real quick. No matter your particular definition, do you consider yourself a writer? If yes, then what difference do a few meaningless words from a complete stranger make? None. It really annoys me when I see people talking about the “writing community.” Uhh no. Yeah you might have some people on here or Twitter or in your hometown who help you with your writing, but at the end of the day you’re both shooting for the exact same goal of getting published. You think if it came down to either you or them they wouldn’t abandon you immediately to make sure that it was them? We both know every logical writer would do it in a heartbeat. So all this crap about the “writing community” is no different from any other type of relationship. It’s okay while everyone is getting something out of it, and I get nothing out of offering up some words of encouragement. While you get nothing out of those meaningless words strung together. You shouldn’t need some random person to get you writing in the first place, then you’re just needy and probably an attention whore.

Who cares what I say or what some other blogger/writer says, if you need motivation to get writing then you shouldn’t have to look any further than yourself.