Writing Pet Peeves #13: All the emojis

I’ll be the first person to admit that I use emojis quite a bit. My favorites are probably right in line with most people. I like these three the most 😂😘😕. But I’ve used just about every emoji in my keyboard. But I really only use them when texting my girlfriend. Sometimes in tweets. Sometimes in comments on here. That’s about it. So only a portion of my textual messaging really uses emojis.

But have you ever been or know someone who uses them WAY too much? I remember a friend of mine temporarily getting her sister’s phone and there were more emojis in her conversations than words. Ha! Not only is that ridiculous, but it’s also stupid. And this probably isn’t even a rare occurrence.

I imagine younger teens up to high school kids doing this. My reaction is to pump my fist in the air and proclaim, “THIS MUST STOP!”. Okay. Now people are looking at me like I’m doing something strange. *runs*

Do you know anyone who uses emojis way too often? Do you ever shake them and tell them words need some love too?

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Saturday Selects #19: It’s all about control

Saturday Selects is a series of posts in which I discuss a random topic unrelated to the general bookish theme of the blog on the first Saturday of each month. Today we have a topic that I feel strongly about.

I’d be willing to bet that some of y’all can already guess what I’ll be talking about even though I haven’t said a thing about it just yet. Because it’s something we’ve all experienced or seen for ourselves. I’m talking about control. And more specifically, about control when it comes to dating.

Let me preface this by saying that I’ve never been in a real relationship. But I won’t let that stop me from having an opinion on something like this. Because in every instance it is unacceptable, and it doesn’t take much more than common sense to realize that.

Do you know anyone in a relationship who must know EXACTLY where their partner is at all times? Do you know anyone in a relationship who constantly makes all the important decisions ON THEIR OWN? Do you know anyone in a relationship who must have ALL the passwords to their partner’s social media accounts? Do you know anyone in a relationship who openly admits to looking through their partner’s texts and/or phone?

I’m sure you do. One, two, or even all of those. These people would likely argue that it’s about trust. And you shouldn’t have to hide anything in a relationship. And to that I’d say, “You aren’t fooling anyone with that nonsense.” To me, it’s about control. One person controlling the other person in a relationship. And there’s no discrimination here. It can definitely be either person, so don’t go thinking I’m only talking about guys or girls. Nope.

The worst thing is when these people who must be in control accuse their partner of lying or being unfaithful ALL THE TIME. Girl texting a guy friend? Oh, they’re obviously having sex. Girl posting selfies on social media? Oh, she obviously wants the attention of other guys. Guy Snapchatting a girl? Oh, they’re obviously sexting. Guy has a girl friend he’s known his whole life? Oh, they had to have hooked up before.

I’m not saying that these things don’t happen, but there’s a certain level of insecurity in a person who thinks it’s happening with every one of their partners. And quite frankly, no one should have to deal with it. I don’t call that a healthy relationship. It’s one thing to discuss things. It’s something else completely to have those discussions entirely one-sided.

If you’re someone who does any of these things in a relationship, then stop. I don’t typically go around telling people what they should or should not be doing, but I have no issue this time around. You’re wrong. And that great guy or girl you’re with is going to realize that there are plenty of people out there who want to be in a real relationship with them rather than control their life. And the day that happens is the day you’re left alone because of this need of yours to be in control of another human being.


On this day in 2014 I published Characters and Their Pets.

 

Writing Pet Peeves #11: Sarcasm

This is something that seriously bugs me like no other. When you’re having a nice lighthearted conversation with someone through text on any platform and then you say something sarcastic, and they suddenly think you’re the worst person in the world for what you’ve just said. People sometimes say that sarcasm doesn’t transfer well through text, but no. It transfers just fine.

What happens through text is people acting like they have no idea what’s going on and start responding with “okay” or any sad faced emoji. It’s annoying and it’s the kind of thing to just make me think I’d be better off talking to someone else who catches every sarcastic remark and tosses one back. Or that I’d be better off just not talking to you. Sarcasm isn’t some secret language that is overly difficult to understand, so stop acting like it is.


On this day in 2014 I published Writing by Hand.

My Birthday (poem)

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Hey guys, today’s my birthday! I know, I know. You can’t wait to wish me a happy birthday and tell me how awesome I am in the comments. 😉 I’m turning 23 today, and it was a rather nice year. Now read my poem.


 My Birthday

My birthday’s today
You should know
Cause we’re friends
I think so

I have no plans
Or much to do
But sit here
And talk to you

I’ll get some texts
And phone calls too
That’s all nice
But I’m no fool

No one cares
Nor should they
Because after all
It’s just a day

Writing Pet Peeves #2: Text talk

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I told y’all I’d continue this series at some point. Well today’s the day.

Text talk. Ooooh. Do not get me started. This probably should have been the first post in the series because I think this irks me more than bad capitalization does. But it’s a close race. Anyway, we live in the age of the smartphone, right? Smartphones that have been made to help us do the simplest of tasks, right? Including our terrible writing.

See, I know not everyone is going to be like me and text/tweet with nice complete sentences and proper punctuation. But some people take it way too far. I just recently saw “ion” in a tweet and didn’t understand why that word was used in that context. Then I realized that someone was trying to say “I don’t” and had shortened it. Like what the? I also see “tryna” quite a bit. Which of course is “trying to” shortened. Tell me I’m not the only person who is annoyed with this nonsense. Cause these are just two examples of SO many.

Like all the stupid acronyms. I use “lol” because that’s my way of acknowledging that the other person was trying to be funny and I noticed. No laugh. No anything. But at least I’m acknowledging it. But seeing “smh” or “idgaf” or “lmao” or “rofl” or “fml” or “wtf” or any of the gazillion acronyms that are constantly used is about as annoying as it gets.

AND lastly, those who text with no sentences or punctuation or anything. They just type big blobs of text. Please stop. Just let your phone do that stuff for you like everyone else.

If you don’t know what all the acronyms mean…you lucky soul.